Dating physical appearance
I will scream this from the rooftops until my dying breath, “Women are more interested in how a man makes her feel than how he looks.” I’ve been on all kinds of sites where men give other men relationship advice — the blind leading the blind.
Men are telling each other they need to bulk up and look like a hard body to win a girl’s heart. I once met a man who was smokin’ hot on the outside, but he had a trash can for a soul.
God gave us physical senses and desires for our good.
But that’s only one piece of what makes people attractive, and it is not the main piece — nowhere close.
You see them, even their physical appearance, differently now. Ask sixty-year-old love birds if they’re still “physically attracted” to each other.
Some of them are more attracted to each other than ever, and it’s because they’re gaining weight, losing their hair, or having more trouble getting around. The wrinkles are the years of faithfulness and bliss spent together.
After you’ve learned more about them — by asking their friends, or by hearing them talk, or by watching the way they live — you’ll never see them again as just the person you saw at first.
Most people want to enjoy how the front of their house looks, but that doesn’t typically break the list of the top ten or fifteen things they’re looking for in a home. Have the appliances been updated in the last five or ten years? The outside may be most important to some people, but they’re probably people who haven’t owned a home before.
Men are visual beings and it’s a woman’s beauty that is first attractive to you. You may not think you’re anything special to look at, but if you’re a good guy, the woman you’re destined to be with will see you as a rock star. If we feelgood in your presence, we will want to be in your presence. If we feel safe, valued and beautiful, we will naturally gravitate to you.
We won’t be able to get enough of you, even if you’re bald, have a third eye or walk funny!
Guys have come to me over the years asking about this. If he admires other things about her, I’m all for him her and getting to know her in safe, unambiguous, non-flirtatious ways (probably in groups).
Usually he respects or admires a godly young woman (or, maybe more often, other people in his life think he admire her more), and yet he’s not physically attracted to her. But I believe physical attraction, at least in the vast majority of cases, is one critical piece in discerning whether to date or marry someone.
Remember, fellas, women are sizing you up the second you walk in the door.