Dating ex s friend
Simphiwe Ndlovu thought a friend and an ex hooking up meant they’d been eyeing each other for a while.“It can’t be a sudden thing, it has to start somewhere.And for them to even think of doing it would be telling,” she said.— from throwing yourself into a new hobby, trash-talking the ex with your friend, and even hitting up your old hookup buddy from college who's always there to "distract" you. You may start to think about how off-limits dating a friend's ex is. If they amicably parted ways because they simply outgrew each other, then it may be more OK to date their ex than if the ex, say, cheated on your friend or broke their heart. "Whether a friend’s ex is off-limits has more to do with how your friend feels about that past relationship," Shasta Nelson, friendship expert and founder of Girlfriend Circles, tells Elite daily. " The reason your friend and their ex broke up can be incredibly important."There are many cases of it working out well for all parties involved, but no doubt it takes maturity, compassion, and respect from all three people," Nelson states.The truth is, you can't always control who you love.If my friend’s ex makes me happy, then I won’t hold back. We make friends everyday, but prince charming is not always available.”Marriage counsellor Rachel Khambule said dating a friend’s ex was anything but a nice practice.“It doesn’t feel good to see your ex with someone new, whether you’re over him or not.
They don’t want to feel stupid, they really do want to be okay with it, or they want to try and avoid unnecessary drama.”But Nombeko Zikhali seemed okay with dating her friend’s ex.
they're OK with it, but "seeing an ex happier being with someone they consider a friend may be too much to bear and can bring up resentment, questioning your friendship altogether," Thomas Edwards, founder of The Professional Wingman, tells Elite Daily.
But that doesn't mean that dating a friend's ex never works out.
If you decide to go for it, make sure you understand that if you do, "your friend might be very upset with you," she explains.
"There may be repercussions, and you will have to be prepared for that." ."While you may not know how much time is 'enough,' it can get to the point where your friend has moved on — possibly into another relationship — and it just doesn’t matter," Edwards says.